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  1. What are Process Addictions?

    While many folks understand the idea of being addicted or dependent upon a substance-alcohol and drugs, there is some confusion over what exactly is a “process addiction”.   To put it simply, a process addiction is marked by growing feeling of dependency on a ‘process’ (eating, sex, love, work, gambling) to deal with uncomfortable emotions such as anger, sadness, anxiety, guilt or shame.…Read More

  2. Fantasy and Day-Dreaming: Early life of a love addict

    As a child, I grew up in a home where there was chronic rage, conflict and emotional disconnection.   Furniture was broken, doors kicked down due to rage from… well, I didn’t know why.  I just learned to carefully scan the emotional environment for cues as to whether I should hide or try to fix, soothe.  Never really to any avail.  My brothers, sister and I lived with my mom; but t…Read More

  3. The Accused: Are we dealing with sex addicts or sex offenders?

    As a psychologist and a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT),  I work with sex addicts almost every day.  I assess symptoms of “sex addiction” by thoroughly examining their relational, romantic and sexual behavior. If they are dealing with symptoms of sex addiction, they will report some to many of the following:  pre-occupation loss of control obsession with a person or sexual behav…Read More

  4. When Relationships, Love, and Sex Become Addictive: What You Need to Know

    Everyone has certain habits we engage in as temporary distractions from sadness, frustration, or worry. In moderation, of course, these coping mechanisms are not unhealthy and may help us get through unusually difficult days.  These processes, e.g. binge watching Criminal Minds here or there, or substances, 1 - 2 cups of coffee to get us going daily, are not likely to cause us any real or sign…Read More